A Birthday Love Lesson.
Let Go. Let God… (and your Sisters) do their thing.
For those of you new to this space: Hi. My name is Gayima, and at times, I am a Libra.
Seriously. It’s a thing. I say for shiggles, start here, and get lost in what Uncle Google and Friends have to say about Libras. For the sake of this memo, when I am in peak Libra mode, I want everything to be orderly, planned, balanced, and pleasant. There is always room for a little elegance, even when it’s simple. Why? Because Libras love elegance.
Anyway, in my libra mode, I was so sure that I was going to experience a planned, quiet birthday. A planned Reiki Session. A quiet afternoon to journal, reflect, and daydream. Good food. Good sleep.
Well, the coffee part happened as planned… Coffee with friends in the neighborhood cafe…
This was such a fun morning! I recommend stopping by The Upper Cup whenever you are in Columbus, Ohio. The vibe reminded me of mornings at BKLYN BLEND when I lived in Bedstuy.
I even had dinner plans with close friends scheduled!
But… God.
Welp, my sisters had other plans for how I was going to celebrate my birthday and my close ones were in on the surprise!
I started my birthday with a surprise visit from my youngest sister and niece. Although I was a bit startled (and annoyed) at the after-hours visit, receiving news that a dear friend of mine passed away from pancreatic cancer within that same hour was horrible, but they were there to offer me comfort.
God stuff.
Grief on my birthday. Yep.
I can’t make this sh!t up.
When I think about my dear friend, Ben, I am reminded that he was a protector of mine. It’s a type of love that is unique and scarce. I mourn, yet, I am grateful that I was able to spend quality time with him and his family before he left us in this realm. I am reminded that you must prioritize and pour into the people who choose to prioritize and pour into you.
It’s really that simple.
Moving through the day… My sisters and sister-cousins curated a surprise dinner for me at the beautiful restaurant Butcher & Rose, and surprisingly, I didn’t cry. My big little sister flew into town and surprised me for my birthday… and the surprise worked. I was busy seeking free stuff outside with one of my Besties, Kris, who was actually distracting me and providing updates to everyone! She was the ops, ya’ll!!!
You’re probably wondering, why do surprises work on me? It’s because I don’t look at everyone’s location, I suppose. I mind my business. I love to mind my business.
Anyway… it was a beautiful day, a beautiful evening… We even ran into Congresswoman Joyce Beatty at dinner! She looked amazing, as usual, and was busy working for Ohio.
I can’t make this sh!t up.
I am grateful for the love and continued support as I complete another year. I am hopeful about a lot of things, and understand that part of the challenge of connecting with others includes working with people that you don’t always agree with. That’s the hard part for me. The easy part is being a big sister. It is one of the best rewards in this life. Honestly, I have the best sisterhood community. Unmatched.
I love ya’ll.
I rescheduled my Reiki session and everything worked out. I was described as a ‘crunch little cookie’, because I am becoming a bit rigid at the beginning of my session… but, this birthday was a reminder that I need to relax and allow good things to happen to me.
XO- Yima
The dress is from Fashionova, a birthday gift!
Random Thought:
I hope every baby that was in the natal care room with me at the hospital where we were birthed is doing well.